Letter: Dear Warrior Woman

Dear Warrior Woman, First off, allow me to tell you just how stunningly beautiful you are. How do I know? Because you're a survivor. You entrusted your heart to someone who repaid you only by shattering it. Repeatedly. You learned to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and carry on. You take care of your … Continue reading Letter: Dear Warrior Woman


Word{s} Of the Day: Reaching Out

If you have been following this blog for a while, you'll know that I always encourage our readers to "reach out" to trusted family members, friends or us here at Café Sanctuary. Often, reaching out is the first, most difficult step an abuse victim may take in getting help and it definitely takes a lot … Continue reading Word{s} Of the Day: Reaching Out

Word{s} Of the Day: Safety Plan

A good safety plan is your friend and it can mean the difference between life and serious injury or death. It's difficult to think rationally and logically in the middle of an abusive situation, so it's worth every minute you spend planning what to do if things get bad. Do not wait until you're ready to … Continue reading Word{s} Of the Day: Safety Plan

Why Leaving Is the Best Thing You’ll Ever Do

very so often, while browsing my social media feeds, I see subtle hints of a broken spirit. It's all in the way someone words a tweet or Facebook status. Or their choice of quotes, memes or articles shared. I remember what it felt like, in that daily harrowing environment, being torn between the shame of what … Continue reading Why Leaving Is the Best Thing You’ll Ever Do

My Legal Journey

On a cold day in February, 2009, I filed for divorce from my abusive ex-husband. Did I intend to file for divorce that day? No. I just wanted legal advice about my rights. The lawyer who advised me listened to my story, for a while, and then he convinced me to file. He told me that … Continue reading My Legal Journey


There's a special understanding which takes place between women who have experienced abuse, sometimes even before the admission happens. It's because we subconsciously appreciate the mutual respect and we are naturally drawn to those who treat us properly. The split second someone mentions "domestic abuse", the initial bond strengthens because we have found someone who … Continue reading Sisterhood

Spread the Word

Café Sanctuary is here to help anyone who needs us. We want to reach more people. Domestic abuse is so widespread that everyone knows someone who has been through it, even if they haven't experienced it themselves. The entries we post here are designed to help people, regardless of where they are in their journey. … Continue reading Spread the Word

Mindset for Escaping/Rebuilding

If you are reading this, thinking how desperately you want things to change in your current situation, you are ready to begin your journey. Somewhere inside of you, an unconscious decision has already been made; the only thing stopping you is the overwhelming feeling of helplessness and the question: "Where do I even begin?" I … Continue reading Mindset for Escaping/Rebuilding

Breaking the Cycle

Breaking the cycle of abuse begins with the conscious decision to declare, "The abuse stops NOW." As someone who jumped from one abusive environment to another, I can say that, yes, it took me a while to "get it." Abuse was all I ever knew and, sadly, it was the norm for me. So normal, … Continue reading Breaking the Cycle

Sanctuary Video Conference

We created Café Sanctuary to help people. Although we have been through some rough times over the past year, our desire to empower women is still strong. We may not have had the time to fully devote to our cause but rest assured that we are still here, willing to help anyone who needs it. … Continue reading Sanctuary Video Conference