Word{s} Of the Day: Reaching Out

If you have been following this blog for a while, you'll know that I always encourage our readers to "reach out" to trusted family members, friends or us here at Café Sanctuary. Often, reaching out is the first, most difficult step an abuse victim may take in getting help and it definitely takes a lot … Continue reading Word{s} Of the Day: Reaching Out


Word{s} Of the Day: Safety Plan

A good safety plan is your friend and it can mean the difference between life and serious injury or death. It's difficult to think rationally and logically in the middle of an abusive situation, so it's worth every minute you spend planning what to do if things get bad. Do not wait until you're ready to … Continue reading Word{s} Of the Day: Safety Plan

Mindset for Escaping/Rebuilding

If you are reading this, thinking how desperately you want things to change in your current situation, you are ready to begin your journey. Somewhere inside of you, an unconscious decision has already been made; the only thing stopping you is the overwhelming feeling of helplessness and the question: "Where do I even begin?" I … Continue reading Mindset for Escaping/Rebuilding

Breaking the Cycle

Breaking the cycle of abuse begins with the conscious decision to declare, "The abuse stops NOW." As someone who jumped from one abusive environment to another, I can say that, yes, it took me a while to "get it." Abuse was all I ever knew and, sadly, it was the norm for me. So normal, … Continue reading Breaking the Cycle

Fly, Then Soar

When I was still in my abusive situation, I often fantasized about how much better my life would be if I could only pluck up enough courage to leave. I felt daunted by the fact that I honestly didn't know where to begin. As much as I wanted to take that first step, I didn't … Continue reading Fly, Then Soar