Dealing with Long-Term Abuse-Related Anxiety

If you asked me to pinpoint the cause of my anxiety, I would say it had a lot to do with my father being a dysfunctional human being. Is that harsh? Absolutely. But to understand where I'm coming from, you have to understand just how toxic my father was. In my opinion, he should never have … Continue reading Dealing with Long-Term Abuse-Related Anxiety

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How To Understand the Language Of Manipulation

It's important to be aware of "foreign" sub-languages that toxic people use in dysfunctional relationships. It takes some time and experience to recognize how someone who's abusive might use statements and inflection to manipulate us. In a healthy relationship, both people understand the importance of direct communication and know how to articulate their needs. When … Continue reading How To Understand the Language Of Manipulation

Abuse Does Not Occur Only Between Partners

The anxiety starts the moment you wake up and realize it's a workday.  You'll spend the hours there walking on eggshells around a certain supervisor, who never appreciates your work but instead picks apart every small mistake you make-- in front of your coworkers. You get to your mother's house to help her grocery shop, … Continue reading Abuse Does Not Occur Only Between Partners

Understanding the Abuser: The Depth Of Hatred

As much as I try to not dwell on what happened to me, I still very much want to understand. It's not just a personal thing; I'm trying to understand for everyone who has experienced abuse. I understand far more about abuse than I used to, but I'm still learning. Based on experience and observation, … Continue reading Understanding the Abuser: The Depth Of Hatred

Word{s} Of the Day: Verbal Abuse

My mother would emerge from the bedroom looking smartly dressed and beautifully made up, anticipating one of her many social gatherings with her friends. I always looked at her in admiration, awestruck by her beauty. My father would look her up and down and say, "You're going out in THAT?" or "Good grief, you scared me … Continue reading Word{s} Of the Day: Verbal Abuse

Word{s} Of the Day: Social Media Abuse

In the last several months, I've noticed a marked increase in online abuse taking place across my social media feeds. I never attack anyone in comments or on Twitter; if I do comment, I make every effort to be as polite as I can and end exchanges on a positive note, even if others are … Continue reading Word{s} Of the Day: Social Media Abuse

Word Of the Day: Sociopath

"One of the cruelest things a person can do is to awaken someone's love without the intention of truly loving them." ~ Unknown One of the biggest lies of our relationship was that there was actually a relationship, to begin with. To hear him talk, we had a connection like no other. What I found most … Continue reading Word Of the Day: Sociopath

Word Of the Day: Physiological Effects

We most often talk about the impact of physical, emotional, and psychological abuse, but what about the physiological effects? When we experience abuse, in any form, it consumes every aspect of our daily life and affects us in ways we can't even imagine. Before I moved away from the abuse 7 years ago, I was a barely … Continue reading Word Of the Day: Physiological Effects

Word{s} Of the Day: Physical Abuse

When I was 17, my father raised his hand to me, intent on slapping me; if my mother hadn't been there to stop him, he probably would have. I had little respect for my father before that day, but that incident ruined what little respect I had left. That he even considered hitting me made … Continue reading Word{s} Of the Day: Physical Abuse

Word{s} Of the Day: #MeToo

There's a trend right now on Twitter, #MeToo, for anyone who's experienced sexual harassment or assault to virtually hold their hand up in declaration and raise awareness about this painful epidemic in our world today. How fitting that #MeToo is trending during National Domestic Violence Awareness Month because I want to talk about the aspect … Continue reading Word{s} Of the Day: #MeToo