Letter: Dear Warrior Woman

Dear Warrior Woman, First off, allow me to tell you just how stunningly beautiful you are. How do I know? Because you're a survivor. You entrusted your heart to someone who repaid you only by shattering it. Repeatedly. You learned to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and carry on. You take care of your … Continue reading Letter: Dear Warrior Woman


A Letter ALL Parents Must Read

To My Dear Parents, This may be one of the most important letters you'll ever read. Anyone can create a new life. Many do so without consideration for the reality that may follow. The circumstances don't really matter. What does matter is what happens when I dare to exist. My life moves forward at record … Continue reading A Letter ALL Parents Must Read

From a Victim’s Perspective

Please stop what you're doing NOW. Stop screaming, intimidating, criticizing, ridiculing, threatening long enough to consider the scene before you. What do you see? Someone whose face reflects pain, fear, heartbreak, detachment? Does she flinch when you reach for her? Do her hands go up in defense of her body when you move your arm … Continue reading From a Victim’s Perspective

Letter to My Father

Funny how a single article can elicit tears by the time I've finished reading it. Some will read it and cry because of the bond shared with their fathers but, for me, the tears are over the man I wish my father had been. I hasten to mention that what [my relationship with my father] lacked, … Continue reading Letter to My Father

My Legal Journey

On a cold day in February, 2009, I filed for divorce from my abusive ex-husband. Did I intend to file for divorce that day? No. I just wanted legal advice about my rights. The lawyer who advised me listened to my story, for a while, and then he convinced me to file. He told me that … Continue reading My Legal Journey

Letter to My Abuser

I sometimes imagine the opportunity to sit down with my abuser, and articulate all the things I have wanted to say, but never could for fear of the repercussions. It's not that I think that he would listen or feel remorse. It's not that I want justification for his actions. It's because I believe that the … Continue reading Letter to My Abuser